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What To Do If You Are a Victim
What the Archdiocese Is Doing
What the U.S. Bishops Are Doing
What the Vatican Is Doing
Resources for Victims
Prayers for Healing
Reflections on the Sex Abuse Crisis
What to Do If Your Priest Is Accused
 

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What to Do If You Are a Victim
of Sexual Abuse by Church Personnel

    Many individuals and the Catholic community at large continue to suffer the devastating consequences of the sexual abuse of minors by priests and other church personnel. 
   We continue to grieve and to pray for the victims of this abuse and for their families, and for all who have been injured or hurt by the scandal.  As Pope John Paul II said, the sexual abuse of children and young people "is rightly considered a crime by society; it is also an appalling sin in the eyes of God."
    The pastors and pastoral staff members of the Waterloo parishes are available to visit with anyone, including victims and family members, who wish to discuss any aspect of the abuse scandal in a private and confidential way.

     If you or someone you know has been the victim of sexual abuse by a priest, deacon, or individual representing the Catholic Church there are several things you can do:
• Contact the Archdiocese of Dubuque's Office of Child Protection
   at 800-876-3546.
• Contact a professional Victim Assistance Coordinator who is under contract
   to provide services to the Archdiocese but is not an employee of the Church. 
• Contact the Iowa Child Abuse Reporting Hotline at 800-362-2178.
• Contact local child protection agencies, a private attorney, or a support group.

• Contact the appropriate law enforcement agency in the jurisdiction where the
   abuse occurred.

In the Archdiocese of Dubuque, professional Victim Assistance Coordinators receive reports of abuse, help victims contact civil authorities, and provide referrals for spiritual care, mental health services, social services, and support groups. 

Archdiocese of Dubuque Victims Assistance Coordinators
Dr. Thomas Anderegg (phone 563-556-1225)
Joan Hoffmann (phone 866-319-4636)
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What the Archdiocese is Doing

Sexual Misconduct Policy (1993)
Policy for the Protection of Minors (2006)
Annual Compliance Reports and Audits
Archbishop's Public Apology/April 10, 2008
Table of Accused Priests
Lawsuits settled

 

What The U.S. Bishops Are Doing

 Text of the Charter for the Protection of Children and Young People  
Annual Report on the Implementation of the Charter
List of Victim Assistance Coordinators in U.S. Dioceses

Report on the Crisis in the Catholic Church in the United States (2004)
The Nature and Scope of the Problem of Sexual Abuse of Minors
by Catholic Priests and Deacons in the United States
(2004)

Supplementary Report (2007)
Report of the National Review Board (2007)

Questions and Answers About How Allegations of Sexual Abuse Are Resolved
Response of U.S. Catholics to the Abuse Crisis/CARA Survey 2002

What the Vatican Is Doing

Vatican Resource Page and Links
 

Resources for Victims

U.S. Bishops' Secretariat for Child and Youth Protection
Archdiocese of Dubuque/Office for the Protection of Children
Hope and Healing Ministries
Committed to Freedom Ministries
Mary's Hope Workshops
Survivors Network of Those Abused by Priests

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Prayers for Healing


A Prayer of Healing

God of endless love, ever caring, ever strong:
your only Son was delivered into the hands of the wicked
yet healed us by the blood of his cross.
May the gentle Jesus, join to his own suffering,
the pains of those abused by priests who have betrayed your love, 
and servants of your Church, whose sin has brought us shame.
May Christ hear the cries of those abused,
may he quell their restless fears with faith in your protection, 
their doubt, with confidence in your love,
and all rage with trust in your healing mercy
Grant all Shepherds of his Church the compassion to protect his lambs, 
the strength to guide his flock, and the wisdom to model their lives 
on Christ, the Good Shepherd.
God of justice and compassion, protect all children from abuse, 
and deliver us from hate.
May we seek only justice and truth, and trust in your unending mercy.
We ask this through Christ, our Lord.
Amen.

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 Prayer for Healing for Victims of Abuse

 Praise to you, Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, 
source of all consolation and hope. 
By your Son's dying and rising He remains our light in every darkness, 
our strength in every weakness.
Be the refuge and guardian of all who suffer from abuse and violence.
Comfort them and send healing for their wounds of body, soul and spirit.
Rescue them from bitterness and shame
and refresh them with your love.
Heal the brokenness in all victims of abuse
and revive the spirits of all who lament this sin.
Help us to follow Jesus in drawing good from evil, life from death.
Make us one with you in your love for justice
as we deepen our respect for the dignity of every human life.
Giver of peace, make us one in celebrating your praise, 
both now and for ever.
Amen.

 + John F. Kinney,  Bishop of Saint Cloud, MN
© 2002 Diocese of St. Cloud. All rights reserved.

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General Intercession for Good Friday
 

Let us pray for the victims of sexual abuse,
in particular for children who were abused by clergy;
that God may grant to those whose innocence was violated
the grace of healing and new life.

(Silent prayer)

Almighty and eternal God,
be the refuge and guardian
of all who suffer from abuse and violence.
Heal their wounds of body, soul and spirit;
rescue them from shame and guilt;
and refresh them with your love.

We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen.

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A Public Confession

The following is the text of a confession read on March 31, 2010 in St. Stephen's Cathedral in Vienna by Cardinal Christoph Schönborn and Catholic theologian Veronica Prüller-Jagenteuful.  The confession was proclaimed in the context of a liturgy of lamentation and penance held in response to many cases of physical and sexual abuse which were revealed in Austria and elsewhere in recent weeks.

Triune God, you led our mothers and fathers out of slavery into freedom and taught them the 10 commandments of a good life. You became flesh in Jesus Christ and showed us that love is the fundamental rule in all things. You are with us as Holy Spirit to lead us.
   And yet we become sinful before you and before one another. Enormous sin has been revealed in these weeks. It is the sin of the individual. It is the sin permeating structures, models of acting, and models of thinking. It is the sin of not offering help and not daring to speak up.
   The responsibility for this concerns us as members of the church in widely varying degrees. And yet, we are your people together and we stand in common responsibility. And so we confess to you and to one another our sin:
   We confess that we have not followed God alone, but rather have followed the gods of our need for lording over and superiority.
   Some of us have, precisely in that sense, abused others, even children.
   We confess that we have obscured and betrayed the name of God which means love.
   Some of us have preached the love of God and yet have done evil to our charges.
   We confess that we have not kept holy and not sufficiently valued the sacraments and other times and places of special encounter with God.
   Some of us have used these as opportunity for assault.
   We confess that we have not maintained between adults and children relationships of unconditional respect for the other.
   Some of us have used and destroyed the trust of children.
   We confess that we have not takes seriously the destruction of life and happiness in life, that we have not understood the destruction and we have trivialized it.
   Some of us have become guilty of the inner murder of other people.
   We confess that we have not cherished bodiliness and have failed in the task of rightly living out our sexuality.
   Some of us have done sexual violence.

   We confess that we have wanted to possess youth, beauty, and vitality for ourselves.
   Some of us have stolen childhood from boys and girls and robbed them of the capability of living out successful relationships.
   We confess that we did not wish to acknowledge the reality, that we covered up and bore false witness.
   Some of us have been able thereby to further delude ourselves and others and continue the criminality.
   We confess that we have wished to have control over others and possess them.
   Some of us have thereby usurped the bodies of the weakest ones.
   We confess that we craved security, calm, power, and reputation.
   For some of us the Church’s appearance of sinlessness was more important than anything else.
   We, the People of God, his Church, bear this sin with one another.
   We confess this sin to those many people whom we as Church and some of us as particular individuals have sinned against.
   We confess this sin to one another, for the Church has become sinful in its members.
   We confess our sin to God.
   We are ready to take on our responsibility for the past and the present, individually and communally. We are ready to renew our models of thinking and acting according to the Spirit of Jesus and to collaborate in the healing of wounds. We place ourselves as Church before the judgment of Christ.
   O Christ, you said that you have taken our sin upon you. And yet we implore you today: Leave some of it for us. Help us not to brush it away too quickly, and make us ready to take it on: each one for individual sin and all of us together for common sin. And then give us hope in judgment: hope for new freedom coming from truth, and for that forgiveness for which we have no claim.
   Amen

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Reflections on the Sexual
Abuse Crisis

This section provides a selection of observations and reflections designed to help Catholics address the wide range of emotions and reactions which the abuse scandal evokes. 
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What to do if your priest is
accused of abuse

These suggestions were prepared by the Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests (SNAP).

1) Remain open-minded.
The natural human instinct is to recoil from alleged horror, and to immediately assume that the allegations are false. But the overwhelming majority of abuse disclosures prove to be true.    In every case, the proper and Christian response is to remain open-minded.
2) Pray for all parties involved.
Every person involved deserves and needs prayerful support.
3) Let yourself feel whatever emotions arise.
You may feel angry, betrayed, confused, hurt, worried and sad. These are all natural, "typical" responses to an allegation of sexual abuse. None of these feelings are inappropriate or "bad." Don't "kick yourself" for feeling any of these emotions.
4) Remember that abuse, sadly, is quite common.
It's far more widespread than any of us would like to believe. Experts estimate that 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 9 boys will be molested in their lifetimes.
5) Don't try to "guess" or figure out who the accuser is.
Abuse victims, like rape victims, need their privacy to recover from their trauma. Openly speculating about who is alleging abuse is essentially gossiping, and helps to create a hostile climate that will keep other victims (even those abused by non-clerical perpetrators) from coming forward.
6) If you do know the victim(s), protect his/her confidentiality.
There are many good reasons why abuse victims are unable to publicly come forward. Often, the person wants to keep his/her elderly parents or young children from suffering too. Don't compound the pain he/she is in by disclosing his/her identity to others.
7) Understand that abuse victims often have "troubled" backgrounds (i.e. drug or alcohol problems, criminal backgrounds, etc.)
Instead of undermining the credibility of accusers, these difficulties actually enhance their credibility. (When someone is physically hurt, there are almost always clear signs of harm; so too with sexual abuse. The harm is reflected largely in self-destructive behaviors. One might be skeptical of a person who claimed to have been run over by a truck but showed no bodily injury. Similarly, one might be skeptical of an alleged molestation victim who always acted like a "model citizen.")
8) Don't allow the mere passage of time to discredit the accusers.
Stress to your fellow parishioners that there are many good reasons why abuse victims disclose their victimization years after the crime. In most instances, victims come forward when they are emotionally able to do so, and feel capable of risking disbelief and rejection from precious loved ones, including family members, church leaders, other authorities, and fellow Catholics. Sometimes, they are psychologically able to do so only after their perpetrator has died, moved or been accused by someone else. Sometimes, they have been assured that their perpetrator would never be around kids again, but have learned that this isn't the case.  (In other cases, it takes years before victims are able to understand and/or acknowledge to themselves that they have been sexually violated. This is a common defense mechanism.)
9) Ask your family members and friends if they were victimized.
Many times, abuse victims will continue to "keep the secret" unless specifically invited to disclose their victimization by someone they love and trust. Even raising this topic can be very uncomfortable. But it must be done. It may be very awkward and your family members may even act resentful at first. But soon they will remember that you really care about them, and will see your question as a sign of that care.
10) Mention the accusation to former parishioners and parish staff now living elsewhere.
They may have information that could prove the guilt or innocence of the priest facing allegations. This is especially important because sometimes abuse victims or their families move away after experiencing abuse.
11) Contact the police or prosecutors.
It's your duty as a citizen to call the proper civil authorities if you have any information (even if it's "second hand" or vague) that might help prove the guilt or innocence of the accused. It's your duty as a Christian to help seek justice and protect others from harm. Remember: abuse thrives in secrecy. Exposing a physical wound to fresh air, clean water and sunlight can be healing. Exposing sexual crimes is also ultimately healing. And remember that police and prosecutors are unbiased professionals with the skills and experience needed to ascertain whether an allegation is true or false.
12) Don't allow other parishioners to make disparaging comments about those making the allegation.
Remember, the sexual abuse of children has terribly damaging effects. As a Christian, you want to help prevent such victimization. And you want anyone who is in pain to get help as soon as possible. Critical comments about those who make allegations only discourage others who may have been hurt. Such remarks prevent those who need help from reaching out and getting it. Show your compassion for abuse victims. Tell your fellow parishioners that hurtful comments are inappropriate. Remind them that they can defend their priest without attacking his accuser.
13) Educate yourself and your family about sexual abuse.
There are many excellent books and resources on the subject. There are also good books specifically about molestation by clerics (Jason Berry's Lead Us Not Into Temptation, Frank Bruni & Elinor Burkett's Gospel of Shame, and the Boston Globe's Betrayal). Check out the web site for clergy abuse victims: SNAPnetwork.org
14) Support the accused priest PRIVATELY.
Calls, visits, letters, gifts, and prayers - all of these are appropriate ways to express your love and concern for the accused priest. Public displays of support, however, are not. They only intimidate others into keeping silent. In fact, it is terribly hurtful to victims to see parishioners openly rallying behind an accused priest. You may want to publicly defend a priest, collect funds for the priest's defense, and take similar steps. Please don't. Express your appreciation of the priest in a direct, quiet ways. Even if the priest is innocent, somewhere in the parish is a young girl being molested by a relative or a boy being abused by his coach or youth leader. If these children see adults they love and respect publicly rallying around accused perpetrators, they will be less likely to report their own victimization to their parents, the police, or other authorities. They will be scared into remaining silent, and their horrific pain will continue.
15) Don't be blinded by the pain you can see.
The trauma of the accused priest, and those who care about him, is obvious. You can usually see it in his face, his posture, and his actions. But please try to keep in mind the trauma of the accuser too. Because you rarely see his/her pain directly, it's important to try and imagine it. This helps you keep a balanced perspective.
16) Try to put yourself in the shoes of the alleged victim.
It's easy to identify with the priest. Most Catholics have met dozens of priests and know them as warm and wonderful individuals. On the other hand, few Catholics have met clergy abuse survivors. In the gospels, Jesus calls us to identify with the hurting, the vulnerable, and the innocent, the hurting. Try, as best you can, to imagine the shame, self-blame, confusion and fear that afflict men and women who have been victimized by trusted religious authority figures.
17) Use this painful time as an opportunity to protect your own family.
Talk with your children about "safe touch," the private parts of their bodies, who is allowed to touch those parts, what to do if someone else tries, and who to tell. Urge your sons and daughters to have similar conversations with your grandchildren.
18) Turn your pain into helpful action.
In times of stress and trauma, doing something constructive can be very beneficial. Volunteer your time or donate your funds to organizations that help abused kids or work to stop molestation.
19) Keep in mind the fundamental choice you face.
On the one hand, at stake are the feelings of a grown up. On the other hand, at stake is the physical, emotional, psychological, spiritual and sexual safety of potentially many children. If one has to err in either direction, the prudent and moral choice is to always err on the side of protecting those who can't protect themselves: children. Remember too that it's easier for an adult to repair his reputation than for a child (or many children) to repair his/her psyche and life. Another way to look at this: Being falsely accused of abuse is horrific. But actually being abused, then being attacked or disbelieved is far worse.
20) Ask your pastor to bring in an outside expert or a therapist who can lead a balanced discussion about sexual abuse.
Therapists understand and can answer the questions you and your fellow parishioners are facing, and help you deal with the emotional impact of this trauma too.
21) Urge your bishop, pastor and other diocesan or parish employees to follow these guidelines too.
 

Created 05.07   Last Update 05.16.10

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